Finding courage in a new place: my story
Back in 2015, I set out on a journey that would change my life. As an openly gay soccer player from a Persian-Norwegian background, heading off a Baptist university in South Carolina felt like plunging headfirst through a cultural labyrinth. It wasn't just about adjusting—this was about owning my truth.
Living at a Baptist university
When I arrived at Anderson University, a Baptist-affiliated liberal arts school, I was both excited and nervous. Everywhere you turned, you felt its ties with Baptist traditions—from prayers before classes started, right down through courses laced with religious themes. While I didn't share these beliefs, I definitely respected them and aimed not only get along but also make my mark.
A roommate's unexpected support
Right before classes kicked off, our soccer team went all in on pre-season training, which helped me bond with new teammates. The first night I shared a dorm room with my roommate, we got talking about relationships. He asked if I had a girlfriend, and I thought, “Why not just say it?” So, I came out, “No, I'm gay.” To my relief, he was cool with it. He told me some folks back home in Bermuda might have different views, but he was totally accepting.
Coming out in a locker room
Feeling buoyed by my roommate's acceptance, I took a deep breath and decided it was time I told my entire team. During a laid-back moment in our locker room—amidst tunes blasting and jokes flying—I added my own twist. They were shocked at first, but quickly got that I was serious. The warmth and support they showed me were just incredible, melting away my worries about being in such a conservative setting.
Embracing my identity and culture
The encouragement I felt at Anderson reminded me a lot about my time in Norway. There, I'd learned that living openly was a freeing philosophy—always ready, if anyone asked, just say it. When I moved on a scholarship down South, this mindset helped me face my truth even more comfortably.
Later, I transferred up north again, this time, Bloomfield College in New Jersey—nothing related back purely on choice. Feeling more confident, sharing myself was just a natural transition. Tossing in humor often turned moments that could've been tense, downright enjoyable, proving acceptance can be light-hearted.
Soccer, friendship, and being myself
Playing across three teams in four years, I've been lucky—friendship echoes loudest. My fellow players often joke good-naturedly about my sexuality, bonding us tighter. This kindred spirit shows I belong, woven in with respect and equality.
Though homophobia looms large in some sports circles, my experience has been wonderfully free from such troubles. Sure, my path might be unique, but it really stands as a testament that being genuine comes with its own kind kind magic—a life lived fullheartedly.
Encouraging others: be yourselves
If there are fears about coming out, they often stem from within. It can be an emotional hurdle, but overcoming it opens doors. I'd tell anyone considering this leap—do it at your own rhythm, in your own stride. Need someone on your team? I'm here, ready with support and cheer.
Now 22, I'm Arman Bashiri, studying Finance in my junior year at Bloomfield College, still playing soccer with pride. Hailing from Oslo, I share my story, hoping it might lift and inspire those in our LGBTQ+ community.
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