**Embracing authenticity: A triathlete's inspiring journey**
In 2017, a triathlete boldly shared his story, inviting us along on his transformative journey toward self-acceptance. It's a testament not only about coming out, but about having courage—the courage it takes just being true and living your life openly.
**Finding comfort in honesty**
Picture this: I'm standing by Jamesville Reservoir, about ready start Syracuse Ironman 70.3. I'm wrestling with my wetsuit zipper, nerves dancing in my stomach. Then, I notice another triathlete who looks just as jittery as I feel. We strike up a conversation, starting with our race goals but soon it turns deeper.
He tells me about his life outside triathlons—he's juggling school and waiting tables, and his girlfriend's there, cheering him on. Then he asks about my own relationship. In that moment, I decided not hide. I told him my partner was my boyfriend, Kyle, who couldn't be there because he was spending his summer in Boston. Mike, my new friend, listened with genuine interest as I talked about how Kyle and I met, our shared passions, and keeping our relationship strong despite being long-distance.
As I went back preparing myself mentally and physically, I realized something: years' worth fear had loosened its grip. That simple, open conversation with a stranger was a step toward embracing who I really am.
**Overcoming a challenging past**
Growing up in upstate New York, "gay" was first introduced me as a "dirty" word at a family event. It left an ugly mark. In high school, especially on my swim team, "gay" was often a slur, a punch meant knock you down. The fear being different or not fitting in lingered.
Even as a high school athlete, making it state championships and becoming team captain, I never felt completely accepted. I worried that coming out would overshadow my achievements, a risk I couldn't bear take.
**A journey transformation**
After high school, I traveled Europe and discovered a more inclusive society. This new perspective helped me start letting go those old fears. I came out a small circle friends who stood by me, offering their unwavering support during those pivotal times.
Joining triathlons and distance running further accelerated my growth. Training and competing introduced me a diverse group people, including Kyle. Despite our hectic schedules and long miles between us, we thrived—whether it was skiing on Mondays, enjoying date nights, or spending weekends together.
**The liberation living true self**
Choosing live authentically has changed everything. Now, I'm not weighed down by others' opinions. I stand proud in who I am and what I've achieved.
Telling my story matters deeply. I want inspire other athletes and individuals wrestling with their identity, showing them that self-acceptance truly within reach. I'm incredibly thankful my friends who've supported me, empowering me live my truth.
As I chase my athletic dreams, I'm excited face future boldly and openly. Hayden Reidy, now a sophomore at Plattsburgh State University, remains passionately immersed in triathlons and distance running.
**Update from 2025**
Reidy still thrives in triathlons, living fully as his authentic self and lighting a path others do so, too.
