D.C. Celebrates LGBTQ+ Veterans Day with Community and Reflection

On September 19, Washington, D.C. played host once again, welcoming about 75 people, including LGBTQ military veterans, active service members, and their allies, all gathered at Spark Social House—a cozy non-alcoholic bar and coffee shop. The event was backed by both D.C.'s Mayor's Office on Veterans Affairs and LGBTQ Affairs.

Coming together in advocacy and reflection

The event was put together by leading LGBTQ veterans and military support groups, showcasing their unwavering commitment. The Modern Military Association was a key player—their goal? To stand as a strong collective voice within military and veteran circles, advocating fiercely. Alongside them were groups like Transgender Veterans, Minority Veterans, and Sparta Pride, all dedicated supporting transgender service members.

Marking "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" progress

Attendees took a moment during this celebration, reflecting on how far we've come since "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" was repealed 14 years ago. It wasn't just about looking back, though—it was a rallying cry, particularly as fresh advocacy efforts continue around transgender service members.

A keynote on progress and hurdles

Colonel Bree Fram, a force in her own right within LGBTQ advocacy, took center stage. Now a Space Force officer with experience from her days in Iraq with Air Force, Fram touched on both triumphs and trials faced by LGBTQ service members. Her insightful speech was a call-to-arms, urging unity in combating discrimination.

Framing her speech, Fram expressed, "I'm here as me, and what I say isn't necessarily what Defense might say. But it feels good being here tonight." Her journey and advocacy are nothing short than inspiring. It resonated with everyone present.

Kathy Marcello, stepping in as interim executive director, led conversations among speakers, bridging voices from past "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" days with those currently serving in our armed forces.

Paying tribute

The night also honored those we've lost, holding a moment's silence. A "moment-of-remembrance" followed, dedicated specifically towards those who served under "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." The community's commitment was clear—sacrifices and contributions weren't going unnoticed.

Right in line with these honors, D.C.'s Mayor Muriel Bowser proclaimed September 20, 2025, as LGBTQ+ Veterans Day in Washington, D.C. While national recognition remains a goal, May 20 has gained observance in a few states and D.C., recognizing LGBTQ veterans' service.

Commenting on its significance, Japer Bowles from D.C.'s Office on LGBTQ Affairs said, "This was all about reclaiming that repeal anniversary. It was about convening, uniting us, just as our organizers set out."

Celebrating community spirit

This sentiment was echoed by Ashley Cruthers from Modern Military Association, who said, "Look, I know it seems scary outside right now. But inside Spark House, we're family. Cry, laugh, share your story—we're here." This was about camaraderie.

The evening wrapped up on a high note with a lively performance from local drag artist Makayla Starr. The second annual LGBTQ+ Veterans Day was not just a celebration—it was a bold reminder that our journey towards equality continues.