Navigating Emotional Well-being: Insights from a Black Trans Nonbinary Therapist

The political landscape has been a challenging environment for LGBTQ+ individuals, particularly during certain administrations that have not been supportive. With the onset of another term, many in the community are feeling anxious and scared. To address these concerns, I spoke with Day Hancock-Murphy, a Black trans nonbinary marriage and family therapist associate based in Portland, Oregon. Day shared valuable insights on managing mental health during such turbulent times.

Community Concerns

"There is a pervasive sense of fear and uncertainty among my clients," Day explains. "Many are questioning their safety and looking for ways to protect themselves emotionally and legally." This anxiety is fueled by past experiences where marginalized groups were neglected or blamed during crises. "It's essential to validate these feelings, as they are a normal response to a traumatic political environment," Day states.

Finding Safety and Support

"Feeling emotionally safe is crucial," Day emphasizes. People need to feel supported by their community and loved ones. However, LGBTQ+ individuals often face multiple layers of discrimination, making it harder to find that support. "Building a sense of community is vital," Day advises. "If you notice someone is alone, reach out. Invite them to events or simply let them know they're seen."

Day also touches on the importance of maintaining a balance between staying informed and preserving mental health. "Constantly consuming news can exacerbate anxiety," Day warns. "It's important to set boundaries and take breaks from media when needed."

Balancing Activism and Self-care

"Self-care is not self-indulgence," Day asserts. "It's about maintaining the energy needed to be an effective advocate and ally." Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation is crucial, as it prevents burnout and helps sustain long-term efforts against oppressive systems.

Day shares a personal anecdote about living in a predominantly white town and facing racism. "I felt the need to toughen up," Day recalls, "but my advisor told me not to shut out the good with the bad. It's important to remain soft and open to positive experiences while being prepared to defend oneself."

Allyship and Support

For those less affected by discriminatory policies, Day advocates for genuine allyship. "It's not enough to display supportive signs or slogans," Day explains. "Action is required. Donate time or resources to marginalized communities. Offer emotional support to friends who are struggling."

Day also stresses the importance of asking before assuming someone needs help. "Check in with your friends, but don't impose your version of support on them. Respect their autonomy and offer assistance when they want it," Day advises.

Seeking Mental Health Resources

For those unable to afford therapy, Day recommends looking into sliding-scale options or group therapy, which can be more affordable. "Some therapy is better than none," Day acknowledges. "Also, there are many accessible books on mental health now, which can be helpful."

Day highlights the value of community-based support systems, such as sister circles, where people can share experiences and support each other. "Healing often happens when someone listens and holds space for you," Day emphasizes.

Ultimately, Day's advice centers on fostering community, setting boundaries with media consumption, and maintaining a balance between activism and self-care. "It's important to take care of yourself so you can continue to fight for the causes you believe in," Day concludes.

Stay connected with your community and prioritize your emotional well-being. Together, we can navigate these challenging times with resilience and hope.