## Love, desire, and an open marriage: A bisexual author shares her journey
"Attraction's a strange and slippery thing," says Evie Sage, a bisexual author whose memoir "Me, You, Them" takes readers on a journey through modern love. Her story gives a candid look at her open marriage and personal exploration as she navigates her true desires.
Evie, who proudly identifies as bisexual, shares, "I'm more drawn towards a person rather than their gender. There's terminology out there, but I try not defining things too tightly. I focus on being present with whoever I'm with." Her memoir invites us in, offering a raw look at her life and emotions.
## Discovering and embracing genuine desire
In "Me, You, Them," Evie talks about wrestling with shame while embracing her desires. She describes shame as "that dark feeling that creeps in when you doubt your worth or feel deeply embarrassed." After attempting conception, she faced a transformative fear, different from shame but just as intense.
"I still feel these emotions in new or overwhelming situations," Evie confesses. "I'm more empowered now, but negative feelings aren't entirely gone. I've learned how better understanding and managing them requires patience and curiosity." Her story's about ongoing self-discovery and acceptance.
Evie realized her desires go beyond gender, opening up new possibilities. "I always wondered if I liked women and feared it'd keep me from being with men. Eventually, I accepted that I like both; my desires aren't dictated by gender. It was a pivotal revelation," she says.
## Advice on exploring sexuality
Evie gives advice on sexual exploration: "Trust yourself and take a chance. Try new things and be gentle with yourself. It's okay not liking some things, just as it's okay enjoying others. For me, it's more about discovery than sticking with a strict yes or no." Her wisdom encourages others on paths towards self-exploration and acceptance.
She emphasizes talking openly about non-monogamous relationships, challenging societal norms. Not everyone will get it, she concedes. "Sure, I get jealous if bonds deepen beyond sex, but that's normal, and we address it. If one feels uneasy, we prioritize each other and communicate clearly with others involved," she notes. This open communication has strengthened her marriage.
## Facing challenges and growing through communication
Reflecting on a difficult moment, Evie recalls when a partner failed using a condom, making her question their lifestyle. "That was a bad experience but also an important lesson in communication and setting clear limits. No regrets," she concludes. This encounter underscores why setting strong communication and boundary practices in non-traditional relationships matters.
Despite her openness, Evie kept her lifestyle private from her father, guarding their relationship. Writing under a pseudonym helps her keep her personal life and business with her husband separate. "Publishing taught me writing's essential in how I process everything," she says.
## Living authentically
For those seeking fluidity, Evie advises, "Be honest with yourself and your partner. Think about what could go right instead. You might be pleasantly surprised by what living authentically brings. I was." Her story highlights honesty and self-discovery's transformative power.
"Me, You, Them" invites you on a raw, insightful journey through love, desire, and self-acceptance. Share your thoughts and join this meaningful conversation below—respectfully—as we explore these topics together.
